Aside from why, but not really...

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about friendships. When you go through rough times, you really realize who your friends truly are. There are people who say that they care about you but they could really care less. I understand that people have their own lives, families and situations to deal with but a true friend will still be there for you and care about you through it all. This brings me to my why question. Even in my late 20s, why am I still so naive about who my friends really are? My husband and I've had this conversation for the 8 years that we have been together. I trust people and try to be the best friend that I can be to those who could really give a ?#@* about me and how I am. We were talking one night about someone who I called a friend and he asked me "How can you call someone a friend and not have anything good to say about them?" That has been at least 2 months ago and I have yet to think about a positive aspect about that person. Maybe I'm harsh...I don't know. I call to check on my friends to see how they are, if they need help with anything, see if they want hang out or need to talk when they are stressed or going through difficult times and just be there for them any way I can. I can count on 1 hand (and half of that) the number of friends who are there for me like that. It's sad to think that only recently (within the last year) I have recognized what a true friend really is, but still fool with people who really aren't worth my time and energy. I think I try to be nice and I don't know why. For some reason this has been on my mind a lot and recently I've decided to drop these people out of my life. I will still pray for them and their families, but could care less about their so-called friendship. I wish that I could list them, but I'm not that mean :-) My honey should be so proud of me.